Sexual Attraction


During puberty, it’s very normal to start developing feelings that you haven’t experienced before, such as feeling really attracted to someone else. This is what is commonly known as ‘sexual attraction’!

Here are some of the signs you may be going through this:

  • You’ve been friends with them for a very long time but all of a sudden you see them in a completely different light.
  • You can’t stop thinking about them.
  • You get a funny feeling in your stomach when they’re with you.
  • You lose your self-confidence in their company.
  • You start blushing in front of them.
  • You don’t know what to say!
  • You want to talk about them to anyone who'll listen.

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You might also notice that when you view images or read text of a romantic or sexual nature you feel a little excited. This is very normal and starts to happen as you get older. It doesn't mean you should act on these feelings. It’s important to know that it's against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.

You might also feel curious about your own body, how it works and makes you feel when touched.  This can often result in people masturbating; when someone rubs or touches their sexual organs and may make you feel tingly inside. It is both a natural and instinctive activity and some people are frightened by the way this makes them feel and think masturbation is wrong or can be harmful. This is not true and masturbation is perfectly normal and is really up to you if you choose to do it or not.


Totally normal


These feelings can sometimes be for someone of the same sex as you and again this is all very natural and your body’s natural curiosity towards others.


For some people these feelings stop and they go on to have relationships with the opposite sex as they get older. For others, these strong urges never go away. But as with any new feelings, they should be allowed to develop and not rushed.


It's also totally normal to have crushes on people who are older than you like teachers, sports coaches and even film, TV and pop stars. Having a crush is perfectly normal and as you get older these feelings may subside.